Every man whether Indian, NRI or foreigner, planning to marry or date an Indian girl should read this before having anything to do with an Indian lady in their life. In fact all the Indian matrimonial sites should give their male user a warning to marry at own risk, along with a link to this article.
Marriage in India and especially Indian lady has high risk involved. The most important thing every man should know is every year more than 100 thousand people in India get arrested for crime against woman that they never did!!
India has above 50 women centric laws, most of them draconian and anti male. Innocent NRI's who come to India dreaming of finding a perfect bride, suddenly find themselves facing a nightmare, being branded as criminal or worst still, become a victim of groom burning. All this happens with help of ill conceived, half baked laws.
Following are some of the most misused women centric laws.
IPC 498a - The most feared law for any guy in Indian matrimony is 498a. Though this law is supposed to address civil issues, it has criminal law like provisions for arrest. Merely on verbal complaint of the wife, entire family of the groom, his relatives etc and whosoever the bride names in the police complaint are arrested. No thought is given to checking whether the person accused can really do any harm to the bride. (Even a two month new born had to be taken to police when named in 498a complaint). This law has become the weapon of choice for greedy girls who become bride just for making money from the groom. They demand huge amount to stop pursuing the case.
Domestic Violence act - Apart from pressurizing groom's family by getting them arrested Domestic Violence act is used by the brides for dual purpose. First rob groomís family of their own home and second to get monthly extortion money from groom. To do this the bride simply mentions in court that she does not have adequate monetary resources to survive and no place to live. (She hides her income as well as her share in her parental home and property). So relying on her testimony the court generally passes interim maintenance (husband to pay monthly amount to wife till the final court order) and also gives residence order that means the bride should be provided residence. Mostly this residence is the place where the bride last lived with the groom. In many cases the grooms family becomes homeless, as along with residence order the bride also gets protection order issued to keep the grooms family out of their own home.
Dowry prohibition act - under this act, bride gets the groomís family arrested by giving a complaint to police that they had demanded dowry. Though, no demand may have been raised by groom's side. But the bride successfully shows all the gifts given by her family as dowry, just to create additional fear in mind of groom's family to increase extortion risk.
IPC 406 - This law for criminal breach of trust is used to show that the belongings of bride (Also called streedhan) were forcibly/illegally taken away by the groomís family. This creates one more excuse for the girl to get the groom's family arrested. To use this law, many brides take away their belongings like jewelry etc with them, but still claim that everything is still with the groom.
The family of groom is put under further pressure by filing multiple maintenance cases under CrPC 125, Sec 22 of DV act plus additional maintenance as per various marriage laws specific to the religion of the couple (India has multiple marriage acts depending on religion etc viz Hindu Marriage act , special marriage act, Muslim law etc. Hindu men face highest risk when they marry as Hindu laws have been continuously been amended to make them highly anti male).
The result is that the groomís family spends money on lawyer to fight their case. Loses money, loses time in attending cases purposely filed at place that is convenient for the bride, like nearby paternal home or office but not convenient for the groom. Plus pay maintenance to the wife who uses the same money to pay her lawyer and manage her expenses. One important thing to note here is that you will have to pay maintenance to the bride that helps her live the same standard of life before she ditched you. Believe me this amount at many times is very high.
If the groomís family still has faith left in the system the wife files further cases like :-
IPC 377 (unnatural intercourse) Lately I have seen a rise in usage of this section by criminal women to trap innocent husband. I will elaborate on it in my future articles.
†IPC 506 (criminal intimidation)
IPC 325 (intentionally causing grievous hurt),
IPC 307 (attempt to murder) This is one of the most heavily misused section in India
There are many more such sections that are filed as per the situation to make the groom pay the maximum amount.
Most of the groomís family give up and fulfill the extortion demands of the bride at the instance of first arrest under any of the above laws. But if they resist extortion the bride files other cases in the list to break their hopes of getting justice.
This kind of criminal extortion by Indian brides have become popular due to the fact that such women rarely get punished even after being caught. In fact only 2% of cases stand in the court. But even after such high number of frivolous cases the court rarely punishes the law abusing woman. They just release groom from the charges. So risk being low and returns being high, large number of women have taken up this criminal mode of earning money.
The risk is very high for NRI's who come to India for marriage, as they do not have time to do a thorough background check of the bride and her family. So such greedy girls look at them as easy target. Many of them are not aware that prenuptial agreements are not valid in India. Even if they marry the girl abroad and divorce as well, the girl can still file cases on coming back to India. So once that person returns to India he gets arrested, sometimes arrest takes place even at the airport directly, before he can reach home or see his loved ones. This kind of incident puts tremendous pressure on the guy. Some men & their families even become suicidal. There are plenty of cases where entire family of the boy have committed suicide as they could not bear the hurt of fake cases that made them criminal for the society. Many times in online matrimony or when the boyís family lives far apart, they are even not able to verify about the current affair of the girl. Such girls when successful in trapping a rich guy into marriage trap continue their affairs even after marriage, as they have no legal risk. The Indian adultery law says that even if a woman is adulterous she canít be considered as abettor of the crime. A man trapped in marriage with adulterous is in worse situation among those suffering from biased laws.
Plus a new law is being proposed which may soon be passed by the government. Itís called Irretrievable breakdown of Marriage (IrBM) law. As per the earlier draft of this law, a male getting married to Indian lady will be basically giving up his 50% property, assets to the woman the moment he signs the marriage document or completes the marriage ceremony. In addition to his assets and property even his parentís property that could be inherited by him also automatically becomes property of his wife irrespective of the fact whether he receives a single dime from it. If IrBM law is passed than risk of marrying in India will increase multiple times. I hope that either such law is not passed or its draconian provisions are changed and it is made gender neutral. More details of this law are on my other article http://lifenstory.com/what_is_irbm_law
The modus operands is, the girls choose their victim from those who will find it difficult to check their background. They generally target men living far from their them especially NRIís residing in foreign countries. The girls prefer matrimonial websites or other ads in newspaper etc to pick their prey, short listing from those living away and having good earning potential. But those who are dating Indian girl and plan to do a love marriage should not consider themselves to be out of danger. As some girls who are more confident use their charming behavior to make their chosen prey fall in love with them. They hide their criminal background and poor family values. They sweet talk unsuspecting men into their trap. During initial of meeting each otherís families and knowing each other, the girls family show very courteous and civilized behavior. When the girl gets married and reaches groomís home, especially foreign country in case of NRI's. Then she starts to gather information about groom's sources of earnings, his assets, his parents assets etc. Then slowly her demands for jewelry, money for shopping and other expenses start to increase. Her behavior also becomes harsh. Efforts of groomís family to keep her happy go waste. These are the red flags indicating that the groom's family is in a marriage trap. The bride keeps on looking for excuses to avoid responsibility and pick up arguments. Than one fine day she leaves the matrimonial home and executes the final lap of her plan by filing complaint with the police. The family of groom is than looked down by the society as criminals. While she enters the government records as one more victim of crime against woman, thereby wrongly bloating the statistics too. Do share this article with all the men you know and tell them that in India marry at own risk is the most important advice an Indian male can get.
Since prevention is better than cure. It highly advisable to either avoid any Indian matrimony. If someone asks me tips to marry Indian Girl I say in India marry at own risk. But if you are already married to a abusive woman. You can read my blog on how to escape from abusive wife http://lifenstory.com/user914/how_to_escape_abusive_wife/
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